Deciphering expectant dads' dreams

Deciphering expectant dads' dreams

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Have you dreamed about sleeping with someone besides your partner? Maybe you're worried about how pregnancy will affect your sex life. Dreaming about your grandparents? Impending fatherhood can make you think about your family's roots. As a soon-to-be parent, your feelings of excitement, anticipation, anxiety, and worry may open a floodgate of dreams.

Here's something else your dreams might reveal: With all the attention centered on your partner and her bulging belly, you might feel left out. Your reaction is normal, says psychologist and dream expert Patricia Garfield. "Sharing your dreams and feelings throughout the pregnancy can help you both feel loved and needed," she says.

To help you figure out what your dreams might be telling you, read on. The following excerpts, adapted from Garfield's book Women's Bodies, Women's Dreams, describe three common types of dreams dads-to-be often have and their possible interpretations.

Fear that fatherhood will compromise your masculinity

During the first few months, men with pregnant partners are likely to have many more sexual dreams than usual, according to an intriguing study conducted by psychologist Alan Siegel in Berkeley, California. He found that early in the pregnancy, the fathers-to-be in his study dreamed of having sex not only with their partners, but also with other women, with prostitutes, or sometimes with other men.

Siegel speculates that the protective feelings a man develops toward his partner and unborn child may be threatening to his masculinity. Sexual dreams and other macho visions (such as triumphs on the football field) may express a need to be more "masculine." They offer reassurance.

At the same time he's having an unusual number of sexual dreams, an expectant father often dreams of protecting and caring for his partner. Dreams with a sexual theme usually subside as the mom-to-be moves into her second trimester.

Feeling left out

During the second trimester, an expectant father's dreams may be less sexual and grow more protective and nurturing. He may find himself dreaming about his family of origin. In other dreams, the expectant father might see himself being pregnant and giving birth. Although he recognizes his partner's unique role as childbearer, he may want to share in the pregnancy experience.

Expectant fathers often feel left out at this stage of their partner's pregnancy. More than half of subjects studied dreamed of being excluded and alone. Confiding troublesome dreams to one's partner can help men overcome feelings of loneliness and keep the couple in touch, while trading happy dreams can boost confidence and intimacy.

Anticipating fatherhood

A father-to-be anticipates the birth of his child through dreams just as his pregnant partner does.

Often fathers dream of finding babies or of being given them, sometimes during elaborate ceremonies or rites. While a woman may be dreaming of the work involved in her forthcoming labor, her partner may be concentrating on dream celebrations of the baby's birth. Dreams of this kind indicate acceptance and valuing of the child whose arrival is imminent.

Learn more:

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